Can We Just Talk, Damn It!
We
stick to our guns and flaunt our cultures and values ostentatiously without
compromise yet we want to coexist. Sounds like stubbornness to me!
I’ve
heard somewhere that doing something in the same manner over and over again and
expecting a different result is madness. Yeah, this is sad. There has to be an
appropriate way in which things should be defined to effect change; change
discussed and acceptable to all!
Change
is a sad and scary word to a strongly established system. Change only comes
when the party that instituted the tenets of the society believes the change it
for its benefit. However, the mainstream, as we always like to call it in North
America, shouldn’t be expected to embrace change instantly. They have to get
convinced that this is not only good change, but change that benefits everyone.
And fortunately or unfortunately, the greater benefit has to go to the host if
that change has to be effected. Sounds sad, but pragmatic and true!
Expecting
others to just accept or believe what we want in the name of ‘we are human’ and
‘this is the 21st century’ isn’t only naïve, but also
counter-productive to any forging of co-existence.
Pushing
issues ahead blindly because we feel they are the ‘right’ thing to do should be
put to the test. The recent debate in
Quebec about religious symbols in public workplaces doesn’t need castigation or
unhelpful criticism. What is right is for both parties to amicably sit and
discuss these issues…thoroughly. Well, that sounds utopian because we’re
dealing with a party resisting change!
The
mainstream Quebec society shouldn’t expect minorities who flaunt their religious
symbols in almost all sectors of the society to just let go of them just
because they’ve come to Canada. A Sikh, who uses a turban will have to stop
applying for government jobs or remove it (turban). Yeah, I know this sounds
exclusionary.
Well,
minorities shouldn’t just expect the mainstream Quebec society to accept what they
bring culturally just because ‘this is our human right.’ Even ‘good things’
need to be understood!
As long as we stick to the same platitude of ‘oh
this is discrimination!’ without explaining how any change is beneficial for, or destructive to, all
parties to understand, we shouldn’t be upset or surprised when our world view
is either challenged or rejected.